Every Monday The CSPH takes highlights a book available for review or lending. This week we give ”Men in Love“ center stage. It is available for loan at our center.
“Men in Love” is based on more than 3,000 responses (asked by Nancy Friday) with men discussing their sexual fantasies, desires and passions. In it she urged men to send her their sexual fantasies (“anonymity guaranteed”). The result? A deeper look into men’s psyche’s. It’s thought-provoking, arousing and for some people, contains unattractive fantasies. The wide range of fantasies explored in this book will guide every reader to a provocative point, urging them to expand upon what turns them on ….and what doesn’t.
This book could be used to stimulate conversation with others about a behavior or fantasy you might like to explore, as a way to normalize thoughts you may hold, or as an erotic read.
Of special note; The author, Nancy Friday, answered a few questions to People magazine in response to Men In Love. While the focus of these questions relate to fantasies and are not specific to men, she responds to questions frequently asked to sexuality professionals.
What is the difference between our dreams and sexual fantasies?
Dreams are the expression of the unconscious while we are asleep. Sexual fantasies are ideas, images, pictures in our mind while we are awake. They’re a combination of the unconscious and conscious. If people could begin to look at their sexual fantasies as easily as they accept their night dreams, we’d all be a lot healthier about our sexual identities.
What is the benefit in recognizing sexual fantasies?
After I wrote My Secret Garden, I began getting letters from women expressing gratitude. “Thank God you wrote that book,” they said. “I thought I was the only one.” Your sexual fantasies are one of the most valuable X-rays you’ll ever have. They provide a look at your sexual psyche. They can tell you so much about yourself.